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mary-mel-murphySister Mary Mel Murphy

1927 - 2016

Born: 22nd March 1927

Entered Religious Life: 8th September 1945

Died: 1st December 2016


Homily given by Fr. Roderick Whearty at Sr. Mel's Requiem Mass

As we gather here today to celebrate the life of Sr. Mel we take the opportunity to reflect on a life well lived; a life lived out in response to God's Call, a life of witness, commitment and faith. Today we give thanks to God for Sr. Mel who all her life gave herself completely to the service of the gospel, in her community and to the wider community in which she served.

Sr. Mel's story began way back in 1917 in Loughrea Co. Galway - growing up in a very different world, a very different time and environment. With her siblings, there she learned, in the family home what it meant to be a Christian - a true Christian in the world. And at the very tender age of eighteen she entered the Sisters of Charity in 1945 willing to dedicate the rest of her life to serving God by serving her brothers and sisters. And so began a lifelong faith journey, a lifelong commitment to the Order of the Sisters of Charity and above all, a lifelong commitment to God whom she has served so faithfully all of those years. These days I suppose most eighteen year olds are not willing or indeed expected to make such life changing decisions and yet Sr. Mel like many of her time was willing to commit the rest of her life in the service of the Gospel. In so doing she made a great sacrifice. Because in that one decision, she chose to sacrifice any possibility of marriage or children, she sacrificed the opportunity to follow other career paths that may have been open to her.

To make such an important choice in her life Sr. Mel must surely have been inspired by Mary Aikenhead and encouraged by the ideals and values of the Religious Sisters of Charity to 'bring God's love and compassion to those who are most in need'. And wherever she was, whether in Cathal Brugha Street, where she learned her skills in catering, or in Milltown where she spent forty years, or in Temple Street, Mel's commitment never wavered. In a modern world when instant gratification is so often the order of the day, when it is almost impossible for anyone to make a long-term commitment - we can only be inspired and encouraged by this woman from Galway who made that life decision and commitment all those years ago and remained faithful to the very end.

Having lived that life of commitment for so many years and when perhaps it was time for Sr. Mel to slow down she moved to St. Patrick's here in Kilkenny. After a life time of giving and serving it was her time now to be served and to be taken care of. I know that the staff on the Kills Road looked after her so well and I know she loved being there. She will be missed by all the staff and her sisters in community there. Her good humour and her gratitude for the smallest kindness shown her is an example to us all.

Last Wednesday [30th Nov] I went to anoint Sr. Mel and I have to say, that she was so peaceful and calm and so well taken care of, she was ready to go. It was her time and we can be confident today that after a life time of service, commitment and faithfulness she will now be rewarded for all the good she did throughout her life. Though we will miss her we would not even in our sadness, deny her the rich rewards she so well deserves.

May she rest in peace.

Sr. Joseph Helen Cunningham.


We are standing this morning on holy ground: the place where Mary Aikenhead spent the last years of her life as an invalid – a woman whose vision, courage and practical common-sense gave birth to our Congregation and to our long and graced history of service of the poor, the weak and the vulnerable.Today we are celebrating the life of Sr. Joseph Helen, a woman who cherished that charism, serving those in need with fidelity and generosity, and who also spent the last years of her life here in the Hospice.


The readings this morning are both comforting and challenging.In the Gospel Jesus speaks of himself as the Way, the Truth and the Life.He invites us to put our hope and our trust in Him and in His promise to be with us, steadily and constantly as we try each day to walk his way, to speak his truth, to live his life.It is an apt description of the life and commitment of the woman whom we are remembering here.


In her 103 years of life, Sr. Joseph Helen lived through historical and global changes that are impossible for us to imagine.She experienced seismic shifts in Church and state.She witnessed wars and famines on a world scale.Through all of those yearsshe remained steadfastly faithful to the constant core of who she was as an RSC.She was born Dorothy Cunningham in Ballacolla in Portlaoise on 1st July 1908. She was an only girl, with one brother, and was much loved by all.Her childhood and youth reflected the calm ordinariness of children’s lives at that time.Following her degree studies she spent some months caring for her mother who was ill and then secured a job teaching in Mountjoy St. School in Dublin.Her father was not impressed!His comment on hearing of that place was:“It doesn’t sound like much of a job but you like working for the poor and you’ve always been good at it”.She remained there until she entered the Sisters of Charity on 5th October 1931.


In the first reading we are told that God gives strength to the wearied; that those who hope in Yahweh will soar like eagles, run and no grow weary, walk and never tire.That was so true of J. Helen throughout her active life.She was missioned back to Mountjoy St. after her religious profession and taught there for 12 years.Following a year’s further study in Scotland, she went to teach in a Secondary Modern school inWalthamstow in England for a year.And then came the call to be one of our three founding Sisters of the Zambian Region, or Northern Rhodesia as it then was.


In 1948 they set sail, travelling for four weeks by boat – The Athlone Castle -rail, bus and lorry before arriving in Chisekesi Siding on a dark morning on 28th October 1948. Sr. Helen kept a diary of the journey which was printed for the 50th anniversary and which gives a fascinating insight into their journey and how they coped with, what was for them, such a strange and almost ‘alien’ environment.


One can only imagine the anticipation and anxiety, the challenge and the loneliness, the wonder and the doubts that marked that journey and her first months in Zambia.It was a place and people that she came to love and cherish.She committed herself to the education of girls and brought the gift of knowledge and freedom to countless women who still remember her with gratitude and appreciation.There are many past pupils with sad hearts in Zambia at the moment – their sadness at her passing tempered only by their gratitude that she is free from the debilities of her age.And that mourning is echoed this morning among our sisters there in the Region and here in this Chapel in the sisters who lived with her and shared her life for those 30 years.


Her first 15 years in Zambia were spent in the Teacher training college run by the Jesuits and began her work in promoting the education of girls – beginning with the setting up of a girls secondary boarding school in Roma in Lusaka.Nine years later she was appointed Regional Leader and on Independence day 1978she was conferred with the Order of Distinguished Service for 30 years of outstanding service to the people of Zambia in the fields of Education and Social work.


While she was a formidable woman in many ways, with high standards and expectations, her devotion to her religious life and her commitment to education was recognized and appreciated by all who knew her.She was a strict disciplinarian, spoke the truth without apology and demanded very high standards.At the same time her heart was compassionate and her generosity and hospitality were known and appreciated by all.


Like all of us, Helen has known suffering and joy, tears and laughter, pain and happiness, loneliness and friendship.And she had strong relationships with herfriends – too numerous to mention – but exemplified in the love and devotion of Sr. Mary Bernadette Collins and Catherine Fallon.Up to the end she valued and enjoyed her relationships with her nieces, nephews and other family members and followed their lives with interest, with love and with prayer.


In 1978 she was missioned to Ireland and worked on our Constitutions.Subsequently she was appointed as local leader to our community in Crumlin before her appointment to our Provincial Leadership team and consequent arrival here in Our Lady’s Mount in 1981.


Sr. J. Helen’s commitment to Mary Aikenhead's charism was single-minded and she never compromised on that.The second reading confirms her attitude to life:nothing outweighs the supreme advantage of knowing Christ Jesus. It is only through Him, with Him and in Him that we can find life and happiness and fulfilment.Rooted in that conviction, she endorsed and embraced anything that served the people for whom she cared in a better, more dignified or respectful way.


She suffered in her growing debility and weakness these last years and all of us – family, community, friends and colleagues - were saddened as we watched her suffering and her struggle to cope.In spite of the wonderful, caring staff who surrounded her and the sisters and friends who were her constant support,she had difficult and dispiriting days.Yet she never gave up .Her faith in Providence was the touchstone of her life.In the midst of all her pain and letting-go she was confident that he was with her, holding her, comforting her and in the end, calling her to himself.And when that call came, sheyielded her spirit to the Lord, peace-filled, calm and trusting - blest with a death that had no struggle, no pain, no fear.And perhaps I can end with some words of hers, written in the diary of which I spoke, on her arrival in Chikuni:“Now that we have reached our Promised Land we must thank God and Our Lady for our very pleasant and on the whole easy journey which we have had . . . . “Those words echo, not only the journey to Chikuni, but her life journey, now at its end as she moves, we believe, into the fullness of the Promised land of God’s life and love.